Get what you want

 Be passionate about what you want,not just wish it,want it badly. You are worthy of it. Most people don't think they are worthy of the things they want in life.  Think you are worthy of every dream you ever had otherwise you will not make enough efforts to achieve it. First realize that is exactly what you want. Write down your goals daily.  And then get up and push yourself.  Believe yours self that you can achieve it. Wake up every morning and write it down and say it out loud to immerse it deep within your subconscious.  Believe that you can achieve it and you will. 

I don't know what kind of negativity and self doubt are imposed on us throughout our childhood that no amount of talent and capabilities are enough to get rid of that lack of self belief and self confidence.  We have to try so much harder for things that should come naturally.  When we first start to walk all we hear is encouragement from everyone. No one tells us that we can't do it. And everytime we fall we get up with the same enthusiasm. I wish we could have maintained it throughout our lives. But we can change it. We can do it now. No matter what age are you you can bring the same positivity in your life, same hope and same dreams and then negativity will not able to touch you.

Bit till then you have to try harder everyday to believe yourself.  You have to encourage yourself until it comes so naturally that it wouldn't drain your energy.  You can get your spirit back,that light which used to burn so brightly. 

We have to do something for the next generation so that that spirit is never get lost. What happened in the past, we can not change it. What we can really do is , not dwell on it and focus on how to push ourselves up. Work on it everyday and you'll be able to reach it otherwise we will still be here and what i want to do is move forward. 

HOW TO BREAK A BAD HABIT

 Are you suffering from a habit that is with you for a long long time? do you want to break it but it doesn't go away? You know that this is harmful to you but still, you can not get rid of it? What should we do to break ourselves free from such habits which are harmful to us? 

since how long your habit is with you and removing from your daily life has consumed so much of your energy but you still find yourself in the same place in terms of getting away from it?

be it procrastination or stressing too much, overthinking, fear, scratching your face, popping that pimple, or delaying every task till it became a burden. your closet is a mess, your room is a mess, you can not find a thing and you didn't even know where to look for it.

not going for a morning walk or gym even after convincing yourself, to snooze that alarm every time it rings. sounds familiar? we are suffering and still, every effort that we have made so far is not working out for us. we are tired of ourselves. trying to change ourselves since the beginning of time and still, we are nowhere near.

if this one thing got away from us that would be the biggest relief and still, we can not get away from it. it has become our shadow, even worst than that. shadows leave us in the evenings and this thing is with us 24 by 7.

I can understand your pain because I am going through that same thing myself. my bad habit is I scratch my face. even the smallest of pimples or even scabs or anything at all I remove it. I can not help it. and when I scratch it will leave a scar and again scabs and I can not stay away from that too. and this cycle goes on and on and on. I have smeared my face with residual pigmentation. I know it that if I stopped touching it slowly my face will be clear, but I don't. and it has taken the worst form. 20 percent of my face is covered with pigmentation and until I stop touching it I will not go away. even if I don't touch It might get a few months to clear but if I don't stop touching my face will be ruined forever. I can not look even in the mirror. I am suffering from low self-esteem because of it. every aspect of my life has been adversely affected by this. if I just stop touching it my problems will be over. every time someone asks me what happened to my face, I can not answer it. I have stopped going out in public places. I have started to hate shopping. I wish I could do what I am supposed to do. I met a psychiatrist. and he prescribed me medicine. what I understood from our conversation is that this is a lack of impulse control. a minor form of obsessive-compulsive disorder. he has suggested some tricks to control it. whenever you find the urge to do something which you don't want to do, just tell yourself 5 min after. and gradually the duration between each impulse will gradually decline. I have started implementing it. I can feel the difference. let's see what happens within 15 days. ill be surer to update it. stay tuned

HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT

 Be passionate about what you want in life. not just wish it, want it badly otherwise you will make enough efforts to achieve it. First, realize if that is what you want and then continue each and every step in the direction of achieving it. create a mental picture in your mind as if you have already achieved it. Write down your each and every morning your goals. Then get up and push yourself. You have to realize that it will not just be a pipedream, you will have it in your life if you think you are worthy of it. say it out loud every day to get it deep within your subconscious mind. You have to believe that you can have it no matter what. 

 We go through life with extreme amounts of negativity and self-doubts throughout our childhood and no amount of talent and capabilities are enough to get rid of that lack of self-belief and confidence. we have to try so much harder for things that should have come naturally. we are born with positivity and confidence and an eternal belief system but as grow old constant bombarding from the world around us shapes our psyche so substantially that we need constant motivation to change what has become our inner core. 

When we start to walk all we hear is encouragement from everyone. no one says that leave it. you won't be able to do it.  every time we fall we get up with double enthusiasm and I don't know what happens afterward, everyone becomes so cynical and tries to impose their own lack of confidence and fear of failure on a child because that's what their parents have imposed on them and the cycle goes on for generations.

Every day we have to try so much to believe in ourselves but once we achieve that core of self-belief and confidence we will never go back to where we were. encourage yourself daily, and read so many positive books and motivational books that you get that spirit back.

read and think so much positivity that light is never lost even if you go through the deepest and darkest tunnel. you will come out strong and more prosperous.  what past is past. we can never change it. All we can really do is focus on how to be out all the damage so next time when we read something positive and motivational, it will be a credit in our mental account and that's all we have to do. we surround ourselves with so much positive energy that negativity gets diluted in our sea of good thoughts. 

We have to try each day otherwise 10 years from now we would still be here. no one wants to be stuck in their head for the same thing again and again. together we can do it. encourage everyone you meet and get encouragement in return. cheers...!

How to stay positive when everything is going wrong

 I have read so many books on self-help and positivity . one thing they all have in common is all say that you should stay positive no matter what. but what the hell does that even mean to stay positive? how can you say that? what can keep me calm when everything is going wrong in life. what kind of book can you remember at that time? what can keep your faith intact? how can you be so strong that nothing can move you away from your path? I have no idea. do you think that when your mind is in constant turmoil a book can help you at that time.. our logical mind knows everything that we should stay calm and composed and positive? We should never lose control but do you think our illogical mind gives a damn what the other one thinks, I think not...! we should have to train it to think that way it should think and behave.

How to keep people out of your mind

Does it happen to you that you can not keep certain people out of your mind even if you hate them,even they have literally no importance in your life whatsoever but still just mere existence of them tends to eat away your time and energy even if you don't want to think about them? Well this is been happening to me for a quite some time and I absolutely despise this person. He is self absorbed narcissistic self centred egoistic prick and I can not stand to be with him in a same environment but then i have to because we work together.  Everyday I think why the hell i give even a second of my time to this person. Every minute i waste behind it is a total loss.  And i lose my mind and the more i think about not thinking i tend to do it more and again and again. 

The only way i found useful is to ignore it and just be happy and feel sad for him for his miserable life .. he us not happy and that is why  he can not see anyone around him happy. He is unsatisfied unhappy and he doesn't respect a single soul. And one of my friend is head over heels in love with him and he couldn't even respect her and everyday i see him insulting her but I don't think she minds at all. Things people do for love!!

1) One thing you could do is focus on your own life and get busy getting better in your life and your career and focus on your own happiness and when you are happy you don't see these sad sad people anymore.

2) Stand up for yourself and don't let these people rule you or your life. Once you let them control you they will just walk all over you. Don't be a pushover and do thing the way you want to do them.

3) Have a self confidence and speak louder and clear and let people know you are there and you have a view and a voice. It is better if they don't agree with you rather than ignore you.

4)you are no less. You are you. Be you unapologetically

5)When you focus on improving yourself there is no one in the world who will sound important enough to waste your time on.. Be so in love with you that you will never have time look upon anyone else