Monday 26 September 2022

Get what you want

 Be passionate about what you want,not just wish it,want it badly. You are worthy of it. Most people don't think they are worthy of the things they want in life.  Think you are worthy of every dream you ever had otherwise you will not make enough efforts to achieve it. First realize that is exactly what you want. Write down your goals daily.  And then get up and push yourself.  Believe yours self that you can achieve it. Wake up every morning and write it down and say it out loud to immerse it deep within your subconscious.  Believe that you can achieve it and you will. 

I don't know what kind of negativity and self doubt are imposed on us throughout our childhood that no amount of talent and capabilities are enough to get rid of that lack of self belief and self confidence.  We have to try so much harder for things that should come naturally.  When we first start to walk all we hear is encouragement from everyone. No one tells us that we can't do it. And everytime we fall we get up with the same enthusiasm. I wish we could have maintained it throughout our lives. But we can change it. We can do it now. No matter what age are you you can bring the same positivity in your life, same hope and same dreams and then negativity will not able to touch you.

Bit till then you have to try harder everyday to believe yourself.  You have to encourage yourself until it comes so naturally that it wouldn't drain your energy.  You can get your spirit back,that light which used to burn so brightly. 

We have to do something for the next generation so that that spirit is never get lost. What happened in the past, we can not change it. What we can really do is , not dwell on it and focus on how to push ourselves up. Work on it everyday and you'll be able to reach it otherwise we will still be here and what i want to do is move forward. 

Monday 12 September 2022

HOW TO BREAK A BAD HABIT

 Are you suffering from a habit that is with you for a long long time? do you want to break it but it doesn't go away? You know that this is harmful to you but still, you can not get rid of it? What should we do to break ourselves free from such habits which are harmful to us? 

since how long your habit is with you and removing from your daily life has consumed so much of your energy but you still find yourself in the same place in terms of getting away from it?

be it procrastination or stressing too much, overthinking, fear, scratching your face, popping that pimple, or delaying every task till it became a burden. your closet is a mess, your room is a mess, you can not find a thing and you didn't even know where to look for it.

not going for a morning walk or gym even after convincing yourself, to snooze that alarm every time it rings. sounds familiar? we are suffering and still, every effort that we have made so far is not working out for us. we are tired of ourselves. trying to change ourselves since the beginning of time and still, we are nowhere near.

if this one thing got away from us that would be the biggest relief and still, we can not get away from it. it has become our shadow, even worst than that. shadows leave us in the evenings and this thing is with us 24 by 7.

I can understand your pain because I am going through that same thing myself. my bad habit is I scratch my face. even the smallest of pimples or even scabs or anything at all I remove it. I can not help it. and when I scratch it will leave a scar and again scabs and I can not stay away from that too. and this cycle goes on and on and on. I have smeared my face with residual pigmentation. I know it that if I stopped touching it slowly my face will be clear, but I don't. and it has taken the worst form. 20 percent of my face is covered with pigmentation and until I stop touching it I will not go away. even if I don't touch It might get a few months to clear but if I don't stop touching my face will be ruined forever. I can not look even in the mirror. I am suffering from low self-esteem because of it. every aspect of my life has been adversely affected by this. if I just stop touching it my problems will be over. every time someone asks me what happened to my face, I can not answer it. I have stopped going out in public places. I have started to hate shopping. I wish I could do what I am supposed to do. I met a psychiatrist. and he prescribed me medicine. what I understood from our conversation is that this is a lack of impulse control. a minor form of obsessive-compulsive disorder. he has suggested some tricks to control it. whenever you find the urge to do something which you don't want to do, just tell yourself 5 min after. and gradually the duration between each impulse will gradually decline. I have started implementing it. I can feel the difference. let's see what happens within 15 days. ill be surer to update it. stay tuned